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| Advice for the lovelorn. (For confidentiality purposes, names in the following letters have been changed.) Single Dad Q. Dear Rosie, I am a twice-divorced 45-year-old male from Iowa. I have an 8-year-old daughter that lives with me part of the time. Now here is what I have ran across for the past two years and I am wondering what I can do to maybe change my luck a little bit. In two years of attempted dating the same thing seem to come up all too often. As I have an 8-year-old daughter still living with me part of the time and as I am 45 years old very often gals that I have chatted with have told me that my daughter is baggage. They say this as their children are on their own and they have raised their children and want no part of being around more children. Other issues have been a matter of height. Or as the gals I seem to meet my lack of height. Ok so I am only 5 ft 7. Never did understand why a gal 5 ft 2 will not date anyone under 5 ft 10. So it seems in the world of modern dating I have two strikes against me. Not tall enough and I have a child. Sorry but I think I am done growing and my daughter and I are a package deal here. The last issue that comes up right away is my income. I make about $30,000 a year. And gals won't even give you a second look if you don't bring down at least $50,000 a year. So my question is basically this -What is an under paid short man with a child that just happens to live in Iowa supposed to do when it comes to dating? Yes I live in Iowa. Not paradise, but it is home. I have tried online dating sites as well as local dating sites and have had the same luck. Now to set the record straight I have been looking in the 35 to 47-age bracket. Not too young nor too old for a man of my age I didn't think looks are not a number one factor either. Just as long as they can ride in the cab of my pickup and not have to ride in the bed of the truck due to size restrictions. Now I may sound a little bit bitter but after two years and no dates I feel that something is very wrong here. Sure I am a far cry from perfect but I do have a lot of love and affection to offer if just given the chance. I am old fashioned and treat gals with respect. Has being a nice decent guy gone out of style or what? Just wondering what I am doing wrong. Any help would be great. Thanks, Lost in Iowa A. Dear Lost in Iowa, First of all your daughter is not baggage and any woman who refers to her as that you should stop communicating with. Children are never baggage! In your profile indicate that you have a great daughter and that if you would not consider a package deal then no need to reply to your profile. iMatchup offers searches that allow you to check for profiles of women who want children or that it doesn't matter. Try searching that way it might lead to a great connection! Stop referring to yourself as an under paid short man with a child. Focus on your strengths and what you have to offer someone. Perception is reality and if you think of and/or refer to yourself in that way then that is how people will perceive you. Any woman who has a height restriction is limiting herself to a world of opportunity. I am 6 feet tall and have dated men your height. Don't indicate your salary in your profile - leave it as tell you later. That can keep the 'gold diggers' out. You will find someone - it takes time and effort and energy - even if you're in Iowa! Good Luck and Keep Me Posted!! Rosie, The Love Vixen If you have a question on life or love send your thoughts to AskUs@iMatchup.com. |
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